Friday, April 26, 2013

Dyan Cannon's Dear Cary: My Life with Cary Grant

Last Sunday I helped pass out information and flyers for the weight loss center I manage. The event was the Houston Women's Expo and was held at the Reliant Stadium. I wasn't looking forward to it, because really: who the hell wants to work on a Sunday? And I was already exhausted from a basketball tournament my daughter participated in the day before, followed by a speed dating event I hosted Saturday night. Yikes!

But it's my job, and for the most part, I enjoy what I do.

While walking up and down the aisles with my fourth cup of coffee, I ambled over to the Barnes and Noble booth. Y'all, I saw Cary Grant's face looking up at me and my knees buckled. I can't imagine there's a woman in the world who doesn't think that man is God's gift to women, dead or alive. I've seen An Affair to Remember about a bajillion times and in that two hours, there is no one I hate and envy more than Deborah Kerr. If you haven't had the human decency to watch it, get on it. Now.

Anyhow, the book with my Grant's face on it was written by none other than his former wife, Dyan Cannon. And no, y'all, I had no idea who she was. I didn't recognize the name. But when she finally took the stage, the voice sounded eerily like (I cringe as I write this!) one of the actresses from Caddyshack II. But I wasn't sure. And then like a lightning bolt, it occurred to me that a good 25 years had come and gone since that movie was released. And yes, I was distracted by the overwhelming urge to throw myself on the floor and weep. 25 years? Seriously?! Hyperventilation time. Was that the last time I'd seen her face. No...Ally McBeal, I remembered. I was ok...that show hadn't been too long ago. Wait a minute...still 16 years! More hyperventilation and agony.

But I digress...

Cannon was married to Grant (35 years her senior) for only a few years, but her story is interesting independent of her relationship with the swoon-worthy leading man. She was nominated for an Academy Award and also directed and produced several films. A singer and songwriter, too. To say nothing of how amiable and interesting and engaging she is.

So, anyway, enough of the gush-fest. Here's Dyan, talking about why she wrote this book. Somehow, after sitting down to hear what Cary Grant's widow had to say, I forgot about my film star obsession and listened to a woman who had her own story to tell, her own wisdom to impart.

And forgive the quality of the video. My Note II is great and I carry it with me everywhere, but it's not designed to film 11 minute videos, and all in the shaky hands of a carb deprived woman who's suddenly realized that she can quote lines from a movie she saw 25 (ugh!) years ago.